Pam will always remain in my heart as a fun-loving, energetic and beautiful woman. She loved life and made the most of it even when tragedy hit home. Pam and Gary worked together to build a life that had joy and meaning; true partners in life. I knew more about the early years of Pam and Gary’s true love. Sabrina and Randy were proof of their love for each other! There is no time-table for grief. Give yourselves Grace and cry, scream, swear, do what you need to do when you need too. When you are ready, a hummingbird garden might be a wonderful way to memorialize Pam and represent the beauty, joy and love she shared with everyone.